Unconditional love does not mean that you accept or condone mistreatment. It does not mean you excuse people their faults and frailities. It does mean you see them, accept them and love them, despite the things you may not like about them. If Rhonda had known that, she could have learned to laugh with her daddy, to have fun with him when he was available. When he was not available to her, she would not have blamed herself. She would not have believed that she lacked anything she needed to get love.
Taken From "Yesterday, I Cried" by Iyanla Vanzant
This is a lesson I must work hard on right now. I am in a situation with someone very close to me. This person has no idea what unconditional love is. I have a responsiblity in that. Ultimately, words without action, will do little to accomplish this. I have dropped empty words for far too long. This is a lesson that must be taught by example. Now is the time I must lead by example, my unconditional love of this person despite the things I don't like. There is a fine line though that I have been forced to look at, and that is the one of accepting or condoning mistreatment. Therefore, my example of uncontional love must give voice to the mistreatment while unconditional accepting that which I don't like. This will be a huge challenge for me. There will be much heartache along this path. I have faith that my Higher Power has placed this challenge before me for an important reason. That reason, a most precious child of God, is worth the struggle. With my Higher Power at my side, I stand a very real chance at breaking the cycle this disease creates. That is ultimately what makes the struggle to be the face of unconditional love worth it, and my Higher Power will not fail me if I only remember to say yes I accept your challenge.
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Good Morning Rex, I needed to hear some stuff on unconditional love. Thanks! How was your vacation? have a good day
Great post Rex,
I have gone through similar. My sponsor is a Stephen Minister and trained in setting boundaries. She has walked me through setting boundaries. Not allowing others to mistreat me. I found it hard because it was people I was trying to help. I had a hard time defining that line.
Good luck, God is with you.
G~
I can relate.
I have to do this with my mom, my dad, my brothers, and a friend in recovery.. I am grateful at the moment that is all LOL
I just made a descion, I would put up my boundries, be assertive if needed and love them no matter what.... and exactly like you said, NOT condoning their negative behavior, but not punishing them for it either...
I realise it is throught the grace of God I am able to do that, and when I forget, I have people who love me unconditionally who remind me with their example '
thanks for sharing rex this was a good post, I needed to be reminded... : D
Many of my sober sisters that just got a year of sbriety are now being required by their ssponsors to go to Al-Anon. I have started, and was amazed to hear of how it affected the sobriety of those in both fellowships . . .
You have so much strength I am reading. Your Faith is strong and beautiful.
"This will be a huge challenge for me. There will be much heartache along this path. I have faith that my Higher Power has placed this challenge before me for an important reason"....I relate to this passage so much....great post....thnx......D
Wow, that unconditional is a hard one. I am working on that part of me.
Wow-what a great post! Ask and you shall receive.
Unconditional love. Just watch your dog for awhile.
I have experienced unconditional love and practice it myself. It is so much easier living life like that
Unconditional love. Just watch your dog for awhile.
I have experienced unconditional love and practice it myself. It is so much easier living life like that
Hmmm, I lost my comment....anyway, I was saying, once I figured out how to forgive deep in my heart and to REALLY forgive and not carry resentments, life is so much easier!! So when someone does me wrong, I still love them despite their defects of character.
Jesus loves me with all my defects of character!!
in my book you do not lack anything to give unconditional love
you are a wonderfully giving woman
thanks for all you give me
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