I stayed too long in a relationship where I did not feel nutured, comforted, or supported. It had reinforced the pattern of feeling worthless and helpless. Somehow, I allowed myself to believe that I was a vicitm. I had told myself that I was powerless to stop people who were overstepping their boundaries in my life..
Taken from "Yesterday, I Cried" by Iyanla Vanzant
This was so true for me. Today I am learning the necessary tools to set healthy boundaries and and enforce them. This is not an easy thing for someone who has lived with confused boundaries for most of their lives. It is freeing to take these actions, but is difficult too. I'm sure I'm making lots of mistakes along the way, but the point is I'm taking action and that feels good. With the help of my Higher Power and the women in my fellowship I am learning to take actions that will lead to healing. It was a tough day today, but I know that I will have many more good days along the way by taking care of the things I need to today.
6 comments:
Yes, thanks for sharing Buddy.
Good for you and don't give up on this just because it's difficult.
Hang in there.
Oh sweetie I need to send you the link to my "Boundaries" post. I'm off to work now but will do it later.
I here everything you just said / wrote.
I see you,
JJ
Keep taking the action girl!!!
P.S. the first time I ever even heard the words healthy boundaries was in my first treatment center. In my family we had no boundaries, healthy or otherwise.
Great post! Boundaries are something I am working on today as well. Some have gotten much much better but some I have yet to figure out. Mainly the sponsor sponsee relationship. Not with my sponsor but with those I sponsor. How far do I go? Right now I am in a resting period and am suppose to be reflecting and doing "other" types of service work. I will keep on working at it ;)
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