Recall the person who harmed you. Visualize him as a baby in his mothers arms and begin to send loving-kindness to that person:
For all the harm you've done to me, knowingly or unknowingly, I forgive you as much as I can.
As I wish myself to be happy, so I wish you to be happy.
As I wish to my heart to be filled with peace, so I wish your heart to be filled with peace.
I wish you well.
I am willing to forgive you, but not yet.
Then send yourself compassion:
May I be free from pain.
May I be free from suffering.
May my heart be filled with peace.
It doesn't matter if you don't mean the setiments expressed in the meditation. You are cultivating willingness by "acting as if." You are dismanteling the wall of resistance chink by chink. It may take some time, but eventually the light of forgiveness will shine forth. In the meantime be considerate of yourself.
Taken from Heart of Forgiveness by Madeline Ko-i Bastis
I'm finding this incredibly hard to do but I'm doing it anyway.
3 comments:
9th Step, making amends to others for my part in whatever it was and forgiving myself worked for me. There were some instances yes, where I did not have a part--
Happy St PAt's and Friday too
Enjoy your today
I can act as if. Thanks Rex.
I see you,
JJ
I use to pray for the first ex hubby.."God give him just as he deserves." It worked even though the intent was wrong.
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