Nobody abuses us more than we abuse ourselves, and it is the Judge, the Victim, and the belief system that makes us do this...
The way we judge ourselves is the worst judge that ever existed...
In your whole life nobody has ever abused you more than you have abused yourself. And the limit of yourself. And the limit of your self-abuse is exactly the limit that you will tolerate from someone else...
We have the need to be accepted and to be loved by others, but we cannot accept and love and love ourselves. The more self-love we have, the less we will experience self-abuse. Self-abuse comes from self-rejection, and self-rejection comes from having an image of what it means to be perfect and never measuring up to that ideal. Our image of perfection is the reason we reject ourselves; it is why we don't accept ourselves; it is why we don't accept ourselves the way we are, and why we don't accept others the way they are...
Taken from The Four Agreements: A Toltec Wisdom Book by Don Miguel Ruiz p. 19-21
This is so very true for me. I gave all that stuff to God during the inventory process, so why is I keep bringing it back up? He has already forgiven me, so it's time to forgive myself. That was a different time and a different me, and honestly I wouldn't be the person I am today if I had not walked in those foot steps....they are a part of me, a part of why I am where I am today. I can honestly say I'm grateful for those things because I love my life today. I believe there is a reason for all things, and even though I might not yet know the whys, God will use those experiences to help another through me someday.
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Absolutely true. The way I kicked my own butt will never compare to what other people did to me.
I made it all day yesterday without blaming myself for anything. My first 24 hours of that. Blew it first thing this mornig. But still going strong.
peace
hugs and Kisses
Your words describe me. Thanks.
Reading your posts always helps me to look at things from another perspective. I think I have not been as good to self as I could be. So today I will accept ME just the way I am! Thanks for the reminder!
love and HUGS
So true. So true. Thank you for the reminder. I tend to abuse myself by forgetting.
thank you for reminding us to be gentle and loving to ourselves today
There truly was a different me...back then also. I wish I could go back in time and give that "different me" a big hug, and tell her it will work out.
And there you go growing and growing and growing. I really appreciate the bits and pieces of spiritual reading you provide to us. I also think it is great how you look within yourself and seek how you can grow from such readings.
I really needed this post today-thanks!
Kinder. To. Myself.
Just dropping by to say "Hi".
Hi.
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x
My therapist is always reminding me to be more kind to myself. I am slowly learning this, but it is not natural to me. It's sad that I would never treat another human as poorly as I do myself. I try to think of myself as the young girl I was, and it's easier for me to be loving to her.
Thanks again for sharing this awesome book.
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