Now that the drama is over and I'm feeling so much better I had a talk with my bestest friend today. She first asked me about the past two weeks and the things that led me to the slippery slope I found myself on. I listed off a few.....Next she asked me four questions about each situation that I thought I would share. These can become a very valuable tool in the future if I use these four questions. Here's how it goes.....
We took each situation and pulled out the idea or thought behind it that was driving me. Then applied the four questions:
1) Is the thought true?
2) Can I absolutely know it is true?
3) How do I react when I believe the thought?
4) Who would I be without the thought?
With each and everyone I found that I could not say that the thought was absolutely true, there was always an element of doubt. In every situation I found that I was hanging onto a fear and trying to control the situation. In every situation I found that had I have the question and turned it over to God, relying on faith rather than being driven by fear, I could have enjoyed life the past two weeks instead of being filled with worry. The worry was wasted energy spent on trying to control that which i had no control over. Spelled out like this it looked so simple.....don't know why sometimes it is so hard for me to get the simple things in life.
Thanks so much for all the help Mable...you are the bestest!
12 comments:
Wonderful questions. Can Mabel be my friend, too?
Sending tons and tons of love your way.
JJ
it is such a relief to practice turning things over to HP/God. Funny thing is that we could have been doing it all along, and spare ourselves some grieft. B ut, jsut like quitting drinking, it takes the willingness and often times the pain to be motivated to turn it over...
great post and great questions!
"don't know why sometimes it is so hard for me to get the simple things in life"
I've been in awe of myself over the same thing! I'm amazed at how truly retarded I am. But, hey at least I now have the opportunity to finally get it!
Thank you for those questions - I can see where it's going to help me.
When I was asked these four simple questions it was a very humbling experience. You know me I love to be right and dammit I was right! But when I honestly took my thought and honestly answered each question I had to ask myself why was I hanging onto to this.. to be right? The thought was driving me insane.. why not let it go? I love that there are strong women like Kate that can get through my "need" to be right and teach me something diffrent.
Yes I gree I do spend way to much time wasting my energy worring about things out of my reach.
Oh and every time I see that dragon fly I wish I would paint like that.
life lesson no. 26: frame every so-called disaster with these words: "in five years, will this matter?"
seems I can take the simplest things and make them way complicated
Thanks Rex for sharing.
p/s I can relate your comments you leave on Gwen's last post.
Is the thought true? wow this takes courage to answer. I guess this is why I pray for the wisdom to know the difference.
I think this is a wonderful process. I enjoy reading it and seeing it unfold.
How beautiful to have Mable work with you in this too!
These are great questions. Thanks for sharing them.
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