Taken from the book: A Moment to Reflect:Letting Go by Veronica Ray
Ironically, the more we try to control others, the more we are controlled. Our emotions become reactions to others rather than reflecting true choice. Happiness, to us, becomes no more than fleeting moments of relief tied to the moods and behaviors of other.
Happiness is a choice. We can chose to let go of attempts to control people, relationships, and situations, and thereby free ourselvesfrom their control. We can choose to live our own lives and work on own growth.
Happiness isn't having everyone and everything go our way. It grows out of a quiet choice to accept the things we can't control and to concentrate on changing what we can - ourselves.
This was an important lesson to learn and has saved ne from many heartaches, even though I still do it more than I like. When I go through my day seeing every obstacle as a challenge, a lesson to be learned I have a great day. When I take care of the things that I am responsible for taken care of, essentially the next right thing I have a great day. When I let go of the things that are beyond my control and remember that I can make plans, but I cannot plan outcomes I have a great day. I am grateful that I have more great days these days than I do those ones when I'm fighting myself because I am not doing the above mentioned things. Today I have something I did not have prior to getting sober. That is a choice. Life is all about the choices I make and if I do make the wrong choice, which I still do all too often, than I can choose to start over and make better, different choices. That is a tremendous gift from my Higher Power. I am blessed.
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To let go of controling others I find is hard to do. I can stop the big blaten acts of control but the little ones that I don't always notice are the ones that get me.
Oh just what I wanted to here this moring girlfriend.
this was a perfect read for me this morning...on so many levels. thanks
Thank you for this post. Blessings to you!
Great post, one I really need to pay attention to. Whenever I am frustrated, it is usually because I am trying to control something, but in turn, it is controlling me. Then I am finding myself distracted and ruled by my feelings of frustration, obsessed about trying to get whatever it is that I am trying to control back within my influence. It is utterly foolish and a waste of my time. I am much better off letting it go and happen however it is going to happen without working myself up.
But does this stop me from getting caught up from time to time? No, I still struggle with wanting things to go my way. What I need to learn is that my way can also be the less controlling way. Like my therapist keeps trying to tell me, just be and let things happen.
Maybe tomorrow.
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