When a perosn verbally assaults you, take a couple of dep breaths. Then silently send the person loving-kindness, by repeating the phrase:
May you be happy and peaceful. I wish you well.
This may seem wimpy and passive, but it is active in a creative way...When negative energy is directed toward us, we can actually transform that energy into a positive force. Loving-kindness is the catalyst. We are not turning the other cheek, asking for more abuse; we are extending our hands in a gesture of understanding. No matter whether the cutting words are deliberate or thoughtless, we simply acknowledge that we all share the same desire to be happy.
It is a form of forgiveness.
Taken from Heart of Forgiveness by Madeline Ko-I Bastis
This is such a difficult thing for me to do. Yet I am learning that ultimately I can only control my own actions, words and thought, not anyone elses. I find that if I stay in the positive that my life sure moves a lot better.
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It seems as if this past year has been a trial for me, and I have learned forgiveness. I truly, in my heart, forgave the person that harmed me, and the outcome has been miraculous in me and in the other person! I do not carry resentments any more. They have been the reason for many relapses in friends of mine.
I say ...the presence of God dwells in ______ and they are blessed. My sponsor taught me that.
Wow Rex - even though I think I don't need anymore books - this looks like a good one. Maybe I can try checking it out from a library as opposed to buying it.
Thanks for a beautiful, thoughtful posting. Meg
hmmm, good read :-) that's gonna take some practice!
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